Planning a Wedding in NYC – The Big, Bad Breakdown

BE AWARE…WEDDING POST AHEAD!

I was asked several times on this blog and by email to do a wedding post detailing what I did and did not like about my wedding.

However…due to my overwhelmingly excellent experience, I will really only be posting the positives. If you have questions about vendors you did not see here (Such as my florist), please leave a comment or email me and I will be more than happy to share those experiences with you.

And if you have no interest in weddings whatsoever, I don’t blame you. I absolutely NEVER did until it was my own. I promise to be back with more eats on Monday.

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Invitations – Wedding Paper Divas and Envelopper Ink

Awesome experiences with both. Wedding Paper Divas is both fairly priced and easy to use – you can go pretty inexpensive or way, way pricey, and they will always let you order a few free samples first to make sure that you like the feel of the paper (yeah, when you plan a wedding, you do things like feel paper. It’s only the beginning of the weird stuff you find yourself thinking about. Breathe into it.). I wanted to do custom envelop liners, so we had them done for a very reasonable price at Enveloppers, who even printed, for a very fair fee, each recipients name and address on each envelope. The little cards were from Vistaprint and had our wedding website information on the back, and my mom and I tied each little gold cord on each invitation and stuffed every envelope.

It took forever and was totally worth it.

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Dress – Annasul Y by Lusan MAndongus. Purchased at Cymbeline and L’fay Bridal

This store was HEAVEN SENT. Little known fact – I hate to shop. HATE to shop. Hate trying on clothes, hate taking them off, hate people saying what they think of me wearing them…I literally despise shopping. More often than not, my clothes are castoffs from friends or my sister buys them for me.

So my mom and sis knew that they had LIMITED time in which to buy me a dress. The first place was a disaster. Too many sequins, too little arm fabric. The second place had a woman who just knew that I would look great in a ballgown.

Pardon me as I gag.

Thank heaven they found L’fay. This tiny flatiron shop is awash in tulle and lace, but they let you choose your own dress here. Grab a bottle of water and ask a consultant for help, or just browse. If you show up a little early or late, don’t worry – they will let you in. They will bend over backwards to let you Skype with your dad so he can see the dress before you buy. They will let you go back multiple times to pair jewelry with your dress. And if you don’t buy that day, they DON’T PRESSURE YOU. You have no idea how rare this is…and it’s SO appreciated.

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I loved my dress. It was modest but not Amish. Feminine but not overly girly. Not too puffy, not too tight, and the seamstress was a dream and put wonderful sleeves on it. I can’t say enough about my experiences with the incredible staff and beautiful, unique selection of dresses at Cymbeline/L’Fay. Plus, they gave my dad a diet Sprite and a plug for his Ipad so he wouldn’t be bored at the fitting that my mom dragged him to.

Winners, I tell ya. Though my wonderful consultant Serena no longer works there, I worked with 2 or 3 other people who were all professional, kind, and helpful.

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Shoes – Tango shoes by Arika Nerguiz

Another little known fact – I have a horrible, terrible, awful bunion on my right foot (wow, we are really getting personal today). I wanted to wear flats, but my groom BEGGED me to wear heels so he wouldn’t look like the jolly Jewish giant. I can’t wear conventional heels for more than 30 minutes at a time without feeling intense pain and my sister actually hid my favorite nude wedges to prevent me from just reusing those. Enter ballroom dancing shoes. With super flexible heels and a variety of styles and colors, these are the best, awesomest, prettiest, and comfiest fancy shoes I have ever worn …EVER. Not as comfy as my favorite Toms, but I wore them for about 8 hours straight with next to no pain until the final hour. The shoes are so soft and flexible that they stretched to accommodate that big ass bunion. These wouldn’t work for an outdoor wedding, since the shoes are made for dance floors, but for those with bunions or indoor weddings, these are utterly fabulous! I got mine at Worldtone, where many Broadway costumers outfit their casts.

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Jewelry – Tejani

Because I am a drag queen…we all know it. This store sells jewelry fit for a Maharajah’s wedding – bling it ON. The staff here is sweet, the stuff is WAY cheaper than anything else that looks as good, and the quality is excellent.

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Makeup – Christina Amador

Friends, Romans, countrymen, lend me your ears. This girl is red hot. On fire. Amazing. Sweet, talented, professional, and did I mention WONDERFUL to work with? she made my mom look like Anne Bancroft, my sister look like Sophia Loren, and me look like Rita Hayworth. She does airbrush makeup. She does false eyelashes. She does anything and everything that you want. If you decide that your nose looks flat after the trial, just email her and she will call you back in 2 seconds reassuring you that she will do whatever you want to make your nose look good the day of the wedding. Like I said, weird things happen to you when you plan your wedding – you have a fear of flat noses.

This woman is PHENOMENAL and a VERY fair price. Get her asap.

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Choreographer – Shari Polis

It’s hard for me to put into words how I feel about wonderful Shari…here is what I wrote for her site as a review:

Shari Polis is a dream choreographer because she doesn’t do what she want to do – she does what you need to do. I am an actress with many years of dance experience and my husband has never even seen “A Chorus Line,” much less knows what a waltz is. Sherri managed, in just 2 sessions, to give us a small dance routine, complete with a lift, that was simple enough for us both to remember but really dazzled the audience. The moment when he lifted me and our friends burst out into applause, rising to their feet, was a shining moment of our wedding. Shari listened to what we needed and made us look better than we ever dreamed we could – she really matched up the Odd Couple in a dance that made us look like Fred and Ginger 2.0. She is professional, talented, kind, unassuming, and most of all, made our wedding a cut above the rest. We recommend her without reservation.

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Photographer – Jami Saunders

Love. This. Woman. Timely, friendly, professional, kind…I could go on and on. She is really salt of the earth. Homegirl runs a nonprofit. For heaven’s sake, she rescheduled our photo shoot last minute because we had an emergency and then got us all of our wedding photos within 5 weeks of the wedding…unreal. Plus, you get all of the photos on a disk and you don’t have to buy the album through her.  But the proof is in the pudding.

She got every single shot that we asked for.  Her packages are fairly priced by NYC standards, and she becomes more than a vendor – she becomes a friend.

Videographer – CinemaCake

This was my incredible sister’s wedding gift to us and it was one that I truly cherish. I wouldn’t have gotten a videographer – easy way to trim the budget and who really watches a video anyway? But my sister wanted to get me the video and she wanted to use this vendor. Okay, whatever. The company was super cool to work with, the guys who came were total gems – sweet, fun, unobtrusive – and the whole experience was nice. I didn’t think anything of it.

Then, a month after the wedding, my grandfather passed away.

All of a sudden, I realized why people get videos. Photos are beautiful and conjure great memories – but videos are living, breathing memories all on their own. To see my dad’s face when watches his dad on the video is just…amazing. To see the dance that my husband and I worked on SO HARD makes me laugh until I cry. To be able to show my kids and grandkids what everyone looked and sounded like is something that I will treasure forever. And we didn’t have to rely on an iPhone that might run out of battery or a Droid that might not work for the video. Please, if you can, stretch the budget for a video. And if it can stretch as far as CinemaCake, then you will be overjoyed with the result.

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Band – Around Town Entertainment

Hey-yo! The band rocked our SOCKS off! Adam Michaels was attentive, personal, quick with emails, and didn’t try to upsell us on a bigger, more expensive band. I had heard him at my friend’s wedding and just knew that I wanted this band. They are AWESOME! Live music the entire time, some killer singers (they did MIKA for heaven’s sake), and a fantastic mix of slow, fast, old, new, popular, and avant garde songs. We gave them a HUGE list of songs that we wanted and they hit almost all of them. Plus, they let my sister and the groom rock out with them.

Yeah, we are a very musical family. What can I say?

This band was one of the best, easiest, and most joyful vendors with whom we worked. Bravo!

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Venue – JW Marriot Essex House

What can I say that you don’t already know? The food was incredible. Their service is personalized, efficient, and over the top. They can get you a last minute stage covering, ensure that your father has a plateful of pigs in blankets so he doesnt get whiny during photos and arrange for your guests to have a large, comfy area in South Gate for the after party. They will bend over backwards to deliver your mother’s welcome bags to guest rooms, make sure that your groom’s guitar is unmolested while it sits with the musicians, and calm you down when one of your vendors is late. The Grand Salon truly deserves its name – gold and crystal and pastoral murals all over the place. It’s grand, it’s elegant, and it’s totally old world. Nothing too hip or sharp here – it’s fancy, ornate, and soft. I can’t recommend Essex House and the fantastic team, led by Cecilia DeAngelis, enough.

One wedding is all you will ever have (unless Jon Hamm comes knocking). But if you do it right…one is enough.

Comments

  1. Loved this! and I second the vote for ballroom shoes!! my parents best kept secret for their 25 yr anniversary party.

  2. We are planning a spring wedding (away from NYC) and I find myself suddenly ignorant in many crucial areas! I hate shopping, too, and I am definitely going to check out ballroom dancing heels. Love these posts– they are coming at the perfect time for me. Thanks so much!

    • fritosfg says:

      So glad that they are useful for you!! Feel free to email me if you have any other questions!